How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back

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You are probably here because you are wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back. I've been there, trust me. I know how miserable you feel, and I am truly sorry for you.

Before we begin... as you'll see this page has gotten quite long with all the great comments I get (over 1000 now).

So... I decided to turn my How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Guide into a video presentation to make it easier for you. It's not going to win any awards for its video effects (!) but I hope you find it useful...

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back (My Video Guide)

Sit back and watch this Guide that I put together for you.. (apologies that the video looks a bit amateur, I'm a bit new to making videos! I promise the actual content is good though :)

CLICK ON THE VIDEO to get started:

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Here's The Transcript Of The Video:

"You are probably here because you are wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back. I've been there, trust me. I know how miserable you feel, and I am truly sorry for you.

However, there is one person who can't be sorry for you right now.. And that's you!

A breakup is a very emotional and painful thing to go through. Probably all you want to do just now is to curl up on the couch, eat ice cream, and feel sorry for yourself. (And honestly, who wouldn't!).

But if you came here to find out how to get your ex boyfriend back...

...it is extremely important that you decide on a solid plan right now. Before you are tempted to make a bad move by instinct, and blow your chances in the process. (You will be tempted, no doubt about it, and the ice cream will be the least of your problems).

In life, usually it is good to do what your instincts tell you to do. Your "gut feeling" is right most of the time, and if you follow it, you will be alright.


However, this does not apply to breakup situations!

This is the one time where your instincts are totally WRONG. Believe me, if you want to get your guy back, you will have to act completely different from what your heart tells you to do.

So stop what you are doing for a moment. Try to control your emotions, and take a few minutes out of your time to read what I have to say.

My article is quite long, because I have a lot of important information to share with you. But if you are willing to invest five minutes to read this, those five minutes will have a huge impact on your chances to get your ex boyfriend back! So bear with me for a bit.

Three Ground Rules For Winning Your Boyfriend Back

I have defined three ground rules that any girl should follow if she wants to get her ex boyfriend back.

Of course every breakup situation is different. You may feel like your situation is so different, that the "common rules" don't apply to you.

However, if you have decided that you want your ex boyfriend back, I strongly advise you to keep these ground rules in mind, no matter what your situation is!

This is what I have learned from talking with hundreds of girls in breakup situations, and I am not exaggerating, feel free to look at the comments below my article.

OK here we go. The first rule is the simplest and the most difficult at the same time:

Ground Rule One: Be strong!

However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.

You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..?

A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though, how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not stress this enough.

A Little Psychology To Help You To Be Strong

By now you may be thinking "OK Essy, easy for you to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act confident when I feel as rotten as I do?"

Well of course acting confident can be difficult right now, because after a breakup your self esteem may hit a low point.

Try this little psychological exercise for a minute, it's really helpful:


IMAGINE how it will be when you are back together with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the future.That part is very important.
EXPERIENCE how it feels to be back together after you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear... How happy he is that he and you are together again.

Try to make this imagination as "real" as possible.

Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right now) that many couples get together after a breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it!

People get back together after the most horrible breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn't be together, still get a second (or third) chance.

Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and psychology.

BIOLOGY: It's the chemistry between the two of you. If it "felt right" it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make "good" babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.
PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an instrument.

He is still tied to you biologically. You have been together, right? So this shows that he and you are a biological match. The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means that you can overcome it with the right strategy.

I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!

OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do. So let's continue.

"We Have been on the Break!" Dating and Intercourse In the course of a Temporary Separation

In a very recent report in the Wall Street Journal titled "To Conserve a Marriage, Split Up?", Elizabeth Bernstein explores momentary separations being a way for couples to action back again from their faltering relationships as a way to re-evaluate them. (The article focuses on marriages, but I think it applies equally as nicely to any committed partnership.) Rather than a preliminary phase to the foregone conclusion of divorce, these temporary separations, planned out carefully amongst partners for a predetermined length of time and with guidelines relating to finances and kid treatment, supply a cooling-off period of time with the additional benefit of permitting the partners to determine what life will be like without every single....Click This Video

But naturally, should the partners are with out one another for any duration of time, they could desire to be with "other" other people, since the post mentions:

Then there is certainly the fraught concern of no matter whether every celebration is authorized to find out others for the duration of the separation. Some therapists believe that dating is Ok, as long as each events are genuinely at ease using the determination. Ms. Viken disagrees. "If one of the functions would like to date, this isn't a trial separation, it can be the end," she says.

As Tigger says, you just cannot argue with a term like "fraught" (effectively played, Ms. Bernstein, nicely played). But when the Hundred Acre Wood just isn't one of your favorite hangouts, probably you remember the years numerous of us spent at Central Perk. In particular I am contemplating of Ross's meticulously designed defense of "we were on the break" when Rachel found his one-night-stand for the duration of their temporary separation.

There are lots of factors that the concern of dating throughout a momentary separation is so "fraught." As Ms. Viken states within the quote above, if a wish to determine others was a primary determination guiding the separation, that might signal that the partnership is a lot of risk for any momentary "break" to resolve. It might suggest that the separation is less about re-evaluating the relationship and much more about having a chance at guilt-free cheating for a while. In a few situations this may even be the mentioned objective: partners (one particular or each) might openly proclaim that they desire to see other people to relieve emotional or sexual aggravation, and/or to reassure themselves that their partners are really the ones they wish to be with. (It is a common justification presented for adultery, and to be honest a temporary separation is really a far more truthful strategy to go about this.) But in both circumstance, this goes deeper than the complaints of "I just can't stand him [or her] anymore" described inside the write-up.

Also, there exists dating then there exists dating. Casually going out for dinner and a movie with somebody is a single issue, but intimacy-however you need to define it, whether or not emotional, bodily or both-is another. As with every thing within a romantic relationship, it can be approximately the partners on their own to make a decision what they are cozy with for the duration of the separation, specially with regards to just how much and what sort of intimacy in dating is allowed. But I might should envision that any intimacy for the duration of the separation would make obtaining again jointly afterward difficult (though not difficult). The explicitly temporary nature of the separation implies the desire of eventual reconciliation and renewed intimacy inside of the relationship, however the expertise of intimacy with another person for the duration of the separation could only make that reconciliation harder to accomplish, since that desire could seem significantly less sincere.

(Ironically, this may imply that couples might uncover it simpler to reconcile following a "permanent" separation-one without any set ending date-than right after a temporary one, particularly if one or the two partners observed others while in the meantime, just simply because with all the long term separation there's no expectation of reconciliation and significantly less feelings of betrayal to overcome.)

Let us discover a thing from Ross: a "break" is not a "break-up," and if you might be in a very temporary separation, keep in mind the final goal is to get back again collectively using your companion. Given that aim, for all intents and purposes you might be nevertheless concerned with that individual. But if your goal relating to the separation is simply to possess totally free reign to play the discipline for any whilst, don't anticipate your lover for being pleased to determine you once you decide you happen to be had ample.